"We are what we believe we are."
C.S. Lewis

Tuesday, February 27, 2018

Babies

 Twenty-five years ago this morning I was in a long labour in a hospital in St. John's, Newfoundland about to give birth to my first baby.
I was twenty-two years old and not a little scared.
There were a few frightening moments to the labour process but finally at about four in the morning my healthy baby boy was born, nine pounds and the most beautiful face I'd ever seen.

One memory that is so clear to me is waking up a couple of hours later, the sun had risen and it was the most gorgeous, brilliant day (kind of a rare thing in St. John's) and I felt a complete sense of absolute joy.  The clarity of that moment, I'll never forget it!

Ole Rascal was a darling, bouncy baby and my memories of those first months are completely vivid, he was my first baby and he was my world.  I struggled a bit with nursing but after many phone conferences with my Aunt Deb in Toronto I had it mastered.  I learned to master all of the care and the vigilance a mother needs.
 
Age two.

Third birthday.

Eight years old.
 Ole Rascal was always contemplative (even as a baby) and he's grown up into a somewhat serious young man.  He works hard and enjoys a challenge.  We love spending time with him and when I look at him I still see the baby who was all mine.
Eleventh birthday ski trip in the mountains.
Happy Birthday Ole Rascal!

If you feel like sharing a baby memory I'd love to read it.
xoxDani

22 comments:

  1. No. 1 Son was induced a week after his due date. I thought I was in labour and managing very well indeed, but no, they were just cramps! In the morning I swear I could feel him flip over, and an examination confirmed that he was now breech. I had a c-section, all was well. No. 2 Son was a natural birth and, to be honest, the thing I most remember is the feeling of the warm, straight-from-the-dryer sheets the nurses wrapped me up in afterwards!

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    1. Patricia sounds like you had good nursing care, you were swaddled, how comforting! I had great nurses in Newfoundland and I stayed for a week! That's unheard of these days, but it was wonderful for me, being such a young mum and without a mother or sister to help me.
      Wow that must have been something to feel your full term lad flip over, my gosh. That first birth, it's such an anxious time. xxx

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  2. Happy birthday to your little (but now big) boy! My boy is 8 and I can already feel the years going by too quickly! This is such a sweet and lovely post, and makes me think of how I need to savor each moment! Thank you.

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    1. Margo, oh my son at 8 years old, so precious. Please enjoy every single moment! Thank you Margo xxx

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  3. Happy birthday to your son! Those years fly by, don't they. Xx

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    1. Jen when people say that to you as a young mum you don't believe it but it's true, they go by SO FAST. Thank you xxx

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  4. Happy Birthday to your son...and those memories of the first labour never really fade...
    I remember mine... Forceps were required after a long and ardurous attempt but our daughter was healthy and that's whats most important...the second birth was quick and much easier!

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    1. That first labour, it's really nerve-wracking and of course it would be, it's quite the event to go through the first time! Thank you Hostess xxx

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  5. My first (also a boy), was a vacuum-assisted delivery. All I remember of those first few moments as he was whisked away, was thinking what large feet he had. Then an overwhelming feeling of wanted another. Which, much to his chagrin, resulted in three younger sisters.

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    1. Laura my son was also delivered using the vacuum, his head looked a little funny for a couple of days but it had to be done! So funny that you had that feeling immediately, and what a lovely family you have. xxx

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  6. Happy Birthday to your darling son!
    I had the most wonderful midwife when I had my first child. I remember thinking I hope everyone has someone just like her.
    I remember being asked why was I smiling during child birth & I said still smiling “because our baby is about to be born”.
    Den xx

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    1. Den that really sounds like an idyllic experience! I wish I had gone through a labour with a midwife, I have heard wonderful stories. Thank you Den xxx

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  7. A very happy birthday to your firstborn!

    I won't tell a birth story, I persisted in doing it all without drugs and it hurt way too much to talk about on this happy occasion:).

    So, what I remember most is the first time my daughter, my first-born, followed me around the room with her eyes. She was the fattest little thing, she didn't roll over for ages, but her eyes were who she was and was always going to be, alert, observant, intent, persistent, and a lover of human beings.

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    1. Lisa I can just imagine that moment! And you saw exactly who she was, how beautiful. xxx

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  8. Also your son is totally adorable:).

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  9. What a lovely baby was your firstborn, Dani, and a very cute young man as he grows. When we look back, we wonder where the time went! I have to admit, my daughter, firstborn, is now over 40. And I remember her sweet little face just as clearly today. As a friend said, Caesarian babies are always very pretty little babies :)

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    1. Patricia it's true Caesarian babies are picture perfect, not smushed looking at all! Thank you xxx

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  10. I feel the same way, Dani. I remember everything about the births of my children. When they were little, they both loved hearing their birthday stories. I described what the day was like, who was waiting outside to meet them, what they looked like, and how much I loved them the first time I saw them. I told those stories over and over again. Such good memories this post evoked!

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    1. SD I do love telling the birth stories too. It's amazing how we remember every detail when so many things over the years become a blur! Thank you SD xxx

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  11. Dani what sweet photos! I bet you cannot believe you have a 25 year old. He has grown into such a handsome man - and talented too. You did well Dani. I still remember when my oldest was born being so stressed. I knew so little about babies! I was exhausted, but I kept a little picture of him next to my bed to remind me it was worth it all- the lack of sleep and constant nursing. Still, I think of those years as precious. I love the ages they are now, but the little years were magical. Wishing him a wonderful birthday!! xoxo Kim

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    1. Thanks so much Kim! I love to see my kids all grown up but I agree the little years are so magical. The teen years are challenging and then they come out the other side and it is so wonderful.
      I was completely freaked out at 22 with this precious baby! Thank goodness the nurses kept me in hospital for a whole week. So grateful to them. Thank you Kim! xxx

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